Young singles finally
find a group that fits
By CATHERINE HOLAHAN
The crowd was sort of stumbling through the tune.
"Happy birthday to you, happy birthday to you, happy birthday dear ...
"
Wait - whose birthday was it again?
Daniel Hedden didn't care that most of the 30 people
celebrating his 26th at Morton's Steakhouse in
"It's kind of tough to meet new people my age," Hedden
said between conversations during the event sponsored by the New Jersey Young
Professionals, a social networking organization with thousands of members in
their 20s and early 30s.
The free Yahoo members group was started in February 2004 by Laura Occhipinti
after a new job forced her to relocate from Waldwick to
Like many twentysomethings in the suburbs, Occhipinti
found it difficult to meet new young people. Through Yahoo's members
pages, she organized a happy-hour event at a
"Sitting behind the computer is easy, but actually meeting people is
difficult," said Occhipinti, 28.
To Occhipinti's relief, 10 "nice" and
"normal" people showed up. All spoke of the difficulty of meeting
twenty- and thirtysomethings in the area. The next
event drew the same 10 people - plus many of their friends. Soon, other members
began organizing events, and the draw increased exponentially.
In little more than a year, word-of-mouth gained North Jersey Young
Professionals more than 3,100 members. Members organize five or six events each
week throughout the state.
On Wednesday, the group held a shindig at Chakra in Paramus as part of a recent
effort to expand membership in
The group's popularity is no surprise to Hedden, a
Outside of college towns and
Hedden has the added problem of working for himself
as a photographer with his own studio. Without co-workers, it is difficult to
meet new people in general and other young people in particular. His clients
are often 10 to 15 years his senior, he said.
Other members echoed problems of socializing with co-workers, saying their
employers frown upon inter-office dating, and their New Jersey offices were too
small to have many people their own age.
"These events are perfect for me really," Hedden
said of the North Jersey Young Professionals gatherings, which typically
include after-work happy hours at restaurants, bike rides, Sunday brunches and
board game get-togethers.
"The bar scene is really shallow. Everybody focuses on the 10 really hot
guys and 10 really hot women. Here, there is less pressure and fewer
cliques," said Cameron, a computer programming instructor at
Without New Jersey Young Professionals, he said, he wouldn't have many
socializing options. Most of his married friends don't go to bars, and becoming
friendly with students is an ethics violation. He tried Internet dating but had
bad experiences. One girl stole his passport. Another cried all the time.
"This is really nice because there is always something to do," he
said, adding that he has met many new friends.
Leilani, a
"I think it's a great opportunity for people to meet others, network and
socialize," Leilani said.